| THE SHULMAN CENTER CELEBRATES 10 -YR ANNIVERSARY! The Shulman Center on the move and in the news… May 11, 2014–Listen to Mr. Shulman live on http://AM830KLAA.com/ discussing compulsive theft, spending and hoarding. May 14, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on hoarding disorder to the Oakland County (Michigan) Employee Wellness Program. May 22, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on hoarding disorder at The Community House in Birmingham, MI. May 30, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive stealing, spending and hoarding at the West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders in Palm Desert, CA. See www.wcsad.com July 14-16, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive shopping and hoarding at the 13th Annual Leadership in Faith Conference in Chicago. July 24-26, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on hoarding disorder at The National Association of Social Workers Annual Conference in Washington, D.C. August 6-8, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive hoarding at the Addiction Studies Institute in Columbus, Ohio. August 21, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on hoarding disorder at the metro-Detroit chapter of NAPO (National Association for Professional Organizers) in Novi, MI. August 22-24, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive stealing, spending and hoarding at the National Conference on Addictive Disorders in St. Louis, MO. September 16, 2014--Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive stealing, spending & hoarding at the Thelma McMillen monthly professional medical lecture series in Torrance, CA. Free. October 7, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on compulsive shopping/spending at the 4th Lifestyle Intervention Conference in Las Vegas. See www.lifestyleintervention.org November 7-8, 2014–Mr. Shulman will present on DSM-5 changes at the Annual Michigan Association of School Social Workers in West Michigan. Follow us on Twitter @terrenceshulman or @TheShulmanCenter and on Facebook at The Shulman Center. Please check out share on our new and improved blog at:blog.theshulmancenter.com. NOTE: If you’re a therapist, please consider contacting us to enroll in our brief, affordable local or virtual training to become more proficient at assessing and treating compulsive stealing, spending and/or hoarding disorders. See: Shulman Center Training A recent testimonial from November 2013: “Thanks Terry for providing a supportive educational environment that helped my understand and learn more about kleptomania and shoplifting addictions. I look forward to using the tools, resources, and treatment approaches with my clients. This training has helped me gain a better understanding and provided everything I need to treat individuals diagnosed with this disorder.” Melissa Oliver, MA, NCC, LPC Pittsburgh, PA |
| THE MOTHER OF OUR ISSUES by Terrence Shulman (updated from 2012) With Mother’s Day upon us, this holiday brings up some of the strongest emotions and often triggers relapses into addiction. So be prepared and on guard! The relationship between mother and child–no matter how old we are–is likely the most important, primal and fundamental relationship we’ll have. I can’t tell you how often in my counseling practice that clients’ “mother issues” are at the very root of their addictions and relationship problems. This is not to blame mothers, per se, as no mother is perfect. But it is important for us to acknowledge, understand, and do our best to heal old (or newer) wounds and to develop a healthier relationship with our mothers whether they are actively in our lives or not. Some of the most common reasons both men and women have mother issues include the following: 1. a mother died early in a child’s life or committed suicide; 2. a mother was addicted and/or mentally ill and was not able to be physically and/or emotionally present and attuned to her child;3. a mother was overtly/covertly seductive/sexual with her child;4. a mother appeared to favor one of her children over another;5. a mother needed rescue, help, or companionship and her child played the role of partner or parent;6. a mother held unrealistically high expectations of her child and the child became inauthentic to receive mother’s love/approval;7. a mother was physically, emotionally, and/or verbally abusive toward her child; 8. a mother had little natural or cultivated interest in being a mother to her child;9. a mother betrayed her child’s confidence in some way; 10. a mother was “perfect” and modeled this in a way her child felt unable to compete with;11. a mother was overly critical of her child;12. a mother was overly “smothering,” domineering or controlling13. a mother committed infidelity in her marriage & her child knew;14. a mother encouraged her child to tell or keep secrets;15. a mother broke the law and/or modeled dishonesty. The core effects of the situations described above often result in persistent feelings of neglect, abandonment, trust issues, low self-esteem/self-worth, codependency/care-taking others, as well as unresolved emptiness, depression, anxiety, and anger. Which of the above issues seems to resonate with you? There may be many other ways to express the wounds or conflicts that develop around our relationship with our mothers than are listed above. Have you worked through any of these issues or does it feel like you still need to? When my father died 21 years ago at age 53 (I was about 28 at the time) I had just begun therapy to finally deal with my “father issues.” These also included deep anger, shame, and feelings of abandonment due to his alcoholism, my parent’s divorce which left me as the man of the house at age 10, and the way he lived much of his life–overweight, overspending, drinking and, finally, getting sick and dying young. I remember going to grief and loss support groups for two years after his death and feeling like I was the only one stuck in the anger phase of grief while others mostly expressed their sorrow. One member even asked me: how can you be angry with a dead person? Because I didn’t have the best role model for a father, I found myself feeling ashamed to be a man, not trusting men or authority, and quite confused about both women and what I wanted to do with my life. Fortunately, I had a great therapist who encouraged me to read books about men’s issues and to participate in men’s support groups and retreats where I found I was not alone, began to trust men again, and to see the positive aspects of men and authentic masculinity. But, interestingly, we rarely talked about or looked into our relationships with our mothers. It’s even been theorized that part of the reason the “men’s movement” of the 1990’s petered out was that we didn’t know how to individually and collectively deal with our mother issues and, so, we kind of hit a wall. At least for most men, regardless of sexual orientation, our issues with mother often are more subtle yet also more scary and dangerous. Compared to my father’s more obvious failings, my mother was a saint. But in the past few years, events had led me to come to the conclusion that I had to deal with my mother issues, too. For me, part of this arose in the context of my 10 year marriage to my wife. It’s not uncommon for men to have issues with their wives that are, at the core, issues with mother or “the feminine.” How many men, when asked to do something by their wives or face a perceived criticism, feel like a five year old being ordered or scolded by mother and just won’t take it this time around? I also realized that I was continuing, at some level, to play the good son role I’d adopted early on despite having made some earlier progress. I had to learn to speak up more, share my feelings and truth and risk my mother’s love. I think we both needed to be knocked off our pedestals a bit. It’s been hard to confront my mother, stand up to her–I’ve been so used to being her protector, her biggest fan. I had to come to terms with my mother’s (and my own) limitations in our relationship. I’m learning to let go of that primal desire to have “mommy” be there for me as I continue in adulthood and it’s my judgment that my mother has had to learn that I won’t always be there for her as I was in the past. It’s been painful for both of us but necessary, too. I also am slowly coming to realize, as my mother ages, that she won’t always be around: Mom is mortal. She just turned 75 this year and is dealing with both some physical and cognitive changes. The question arises: what do I/we need to say to my/our mother or feel in my/our heart so /weI can be as complete as possible when she passes? I’ve done some reading about mother issues, talked to my wife and numerous friends (who assured me they all had mother issues, too) and have listened to how so many clients of mine struggle to heal or transform their relationships to their mothers. Some of my clients were sexually abused by their mothers. Some were literally abandoned on the street. Some were criticized beyond measure (as I believe my father’s mother was to him). Some were deemed the problem child, the hero, or some role they couldn’t seem to shake. One client, a doctor, kicked and screamed throughout our therapy to deny his relationship with his mother had much impact on his stealing and repressed anger yet avoided talking to his mother who telephoned him constantly. Finally, he conceded a bit and learned the Herculean task of stopping avoiding his mother’s calls and simply set limits with her on the phone. Now, she hardly calls and their relationship feels more at ease to him. Another client has a very “religious” mother who holds judgments against her from the past and even testified in court against her in a dispute with her ex-husband over childcare. We all long for the perfect mother… and the perfect father. We all know that no parent is perfect and even those of us who are parents ourselves get to realized life’s cruel joke: we often become like our parents or at least learn to appreciate how hard it must have been to them to raise us! As we grow up (and, hopefully, we do) we learn to differentiate from our parents, need them less (emotionally, financially, etc) and develop compassion for them (they did the best they knew how to do given how they likely were raised). But this doesn’t mean it’s easy. We are taught to honor thy parents but that doesn’t mean we don’t speak our minds our share our hearts. Ideally, we often look to Mom (or Dad) to be a safe space to share our pain and our opinions (even if it hurts them). It doesn’t mean they don’t share their own pain and opinions back but, I believe, a primary role of a parent is to be strong and mature enough to absorb their child’s expressions, to model this even, and to be secure enough even in their imperfections to listen, try to understand, and try to see the gift in their child’s courageous, if imprecise, offering of their pain, their perspective. This is the ideal and, of course, it’s painful when we don’t get this from parents. I can only say that when my wife and my friends are able to hear each others’ grievances and concerns without attacking back or defending (and when I can hear them), it creates safety and trust and deepens our relationships. I can’t think of a better way to honor each other. In this context, wouldn’t it be great if–this Mother’s Day–instead of cards and flowers, we could give the gift of honesty, our mother could receive it lovingly, and we would return the favor? $1MILLION MAY NOT BE ENOUGH FOR RETIREMENT by Rodney Brooks USA Today You’ve been saving like a miser to get ready for retirement. You’ve pinched pennies, kept that last car for what seems like an eternity. And now you’ve banked a cool $1 million for your retirement years.Think you’re set? Well, you very well might be. Then again, you still might be short. “The good news is there are more millionaires,” says Richard G. Dragotta, at LPL Financial in Paramus, N.J. “Over 9 million people in the U.S. have $1 million or more.” But, Dragotta says, $1 million might not mean you’re wealthy: The new $1 million may be $2 million. “Thirty years ago, $1 million was a huge amount of money,” says Haitham “Hutch” Ashoo, CEO of Pillar Wealth Management, in Walnut Creek, Calif. “Today, given today’s lifestyles and costs, it isn’t so much money.” Why not? “It translates into $40,000 to $50,000 (annually) in sustainable revenue,” says Joe Heider, regional managing principal for Rehmann Financial Group in Westlake, Ohio. “That is not that much money on an annual basis.” Heider says that 10 to 12 years ago, when people earned a lot more on their investments, $1 million could generate $70,000 to $80,000 a year in retirement income. But with interest rates as low as they are, that’s not really feasible. Still, that’s not to say that no one could live on savings of $1 million. Not everyone will need that kind of cash in their retirement kitty, financial planners say. It all depends on your lifestyle – the one you’re living now, and the one you want to live in retirement. It also depends on your investment returns, taxes and inflation. “I think it depends on how much money you’re going to spend,” says Tim Courtney, chief investment officer at Exencial Wealth Advisors in Oklahoma City. “A million is not like $1 million 20 years ago or 30 years ago. If you’re wanting to spend $50,000 a year or less from your investment portfolio, $1 million will probably get it done for you. “If you want more than that, $1 million is not going to provide that for you,” he says. Otherwise, you run the risk of depleting your savings before you die. “Everything is relative,” says Clarence Kehoe, executive partner in the accounting firm Anchin, Block & Anchin in New York City. “For some people, I would think $1 million would be more than enough. For other people, I can tell you some of these clients spend more than $1 million in a year. It depends on the person, their lifestyle and what they are used to.” Kehoe says hopefully, most of your bigger expenses are done with in retirement – children’s college tuition and your mortgage, for example. “If you contained those bigger expense, things are a little bit easier,” he says. “But you have to realize there are new types of expenses. You have increased medical expenses, and you have all this free time. There’s the cost of hobbies, the cost of traveling. That could be very expensive.” Pillar Wealth Management’s Ashoo says even if you have $3 million to $10 million, but you want to jet all over the world, you haven’t saved enough. “If a jet is not what you’re after, if all you are looking for is a motor home to travel, then that’s doable. It’s about you and what you are trying to achieve. Do you have the right expectations?” One mistake that people often make is that they assume that they will spend less in retirement, says Heider. “The reality is when someone retires in good health, they are more likely than not to spend more money,” he says. See the rest of the article at: Retirement THE SHULMAN CENTER & 3rd MILLENIUM CLASSROOMSLAUNCH ONLINE SHOPLIFTING PREVENTION PROGRAM I was grateful to recently escape the Michigan cold and visit our new partners at 3rd Millennium Classrooms in San Antonio, Texas. Founded about 10 years ago by Gary Moorman, 3rd Millennium specializes in developing online education programs from high schooler, college students, and court-ordered probationers on topics of alcohol awareness, marijuana awareness, and shoplifting awareness/prevention, as well as other topics like better parenting. It was an honor and privilege to be contacted by 3rd Millennium 6 months ago to partner and consult with them on improving their online shoplifting awareness/prevention course called STOPLifting. We couldn’t have asked to work with more kind, dedicated and creative people than Gary Moorman and his staff, including Katie Church and Shannon Reynolds. We look forward to the launch of the STOPLifting program on May 1, 2014. See 3rd Millennium’s site: www.3rdmilclassrooms.comor preview the course at: STOPLifting PERFECTION ANXIETY: THE BURDEN OF THE UBER-RICHMay 2014 Vanity Fair Article by A.A. Gill After spending $19 million on their wedding, and $85 million on an L.A. mansion, James Stunt and Petra Ecclestone have purchased one of Britain’s great cultural treasures, a 17th-century, $20 million Van Dyck. So, what’s it like to have too much money? Very stressful. For the super-rich, perfection can be a chore. He catches your eye with a sideways glance and an enigmatic expression. Indicating what? Curiosity? Trepidation? A little insecure arrogance? Anthony Van Dyck’s final self-portrait is a work of mesmerizing depth and dexterity. Within a year he would be dead. Is there a whisper of premonition? Van Dyck is the godfather of British portraiture, the artist who put a face to the 17th century and the birth of the new-model middle class. And that, perhaps, is what’s on this face. It is the first glimpse of upwardly mobile anxiety. The painting is considered one of Britain’s greatest cultural treasures, and it was recently sold for $20 million to a buyer who wants to take it to Los Angeles. The National Portrait Gallery in London badly wants to keep the Van Dyck in the country and is attempting to raise matching funds to prevent it from going abroad. Sandy Nairne, the director of the gallery, says he is determined to save it for the nation. The export has been delayed until summer. The expectant owners are Petra Ecclestone, the 25-year-old daughter of Formula One mogul Bernie, and her husband, James Stunt, who sounds, unfortunately, like a character from a Martin Amis novel, and who looks, even more unfortunately, like a character from a Martin Amis novel. The couple had a $19 million wedding, where she wore a $130,000 Vera Wang dress. Six-thousand-dollar bottles of Château Pétrus were served. He collects Pétrus, too, of course, and keeps it in a special cabinet made by David Linley, the Queen’s nephew. He also collects cars: Lamborghinis and Rolls-Royces. And 17th-century portraits. Petra bought them one of the most expensive homes in Los Angeles County, for $85 million, where one assumes the Van Dyck will hang. It’s Aaron Spelling’s old place in Holmby Hills, which, famously, contains Candy Spelling’s gift-wrapping room. It goes with Petra’s London house, in Chelsea, which is worth $90 million. At this point, we should all take a deep breath and step back from the frothing goblet of sparkling snobbery that we are quaffing and that is so marvelously intoxicating. Oh, the pleasurable indignation of smirking at the young and tastelessly rich. But, really, why shouldn’t a Van Dyck spend a few years in an L.A. party palace, along with the Pétrus and the Rolls? Who’s to say what new money should or shouldn’t accumulate? Turn this question around and try to see it, as Joel Grey might put it, through their eyes. There is a terrible dichotomy in extreme wealth. After a bit, the money stops working. There are a statistically minute but quantitatively considerable number of people who now have more money than they know what to do with. And that money accounts for quite a lot of the world’s wealth, so we all have a passing interest in what becomes of it. How do I, as a frugally paid journeyman hack, know it stops working? Well, I’ve been asking folks who service the overly minted. There is a name for their panicked ennui: Perfection Anxiety. When you have 15 houses, yachts in three oceans, planes, cellars, mistresses, surgery, a library, and a personal charity, new purchases become just a matter of upgrading. And this is where the Perfection Anxiety kicks in. What you need is to have not just the most but the very, very best. The super-rich watch each other like envious owls, to see who’s got a slightly better loafer, a pullover made from some even more absurdly endangered fur. They will go to any lengths to find the best tailors. I know of a man who gets his suit pants made in Italy and the jackets on Savile Row. In his underwear, he’s short, fat, furry, and stooped. Only the fathomlessly rich suffer from Perfection Anxiety. There is no relativity to wealth. It’s all absolutes. It’s either impeccable, the best, the rarest, or it might as well be Walmart. The stress of value for money is magnified exponentially when it gets into the billions. The myth of King Midas, who was cursed to have everything he touched turn to gold, would be worse if everything he touched turned out to be gold leaf. And it’s not just the suspicion that all your stuff isn’t utterly perfect. It’s also the anxiety of maintaining perfection once it’s achieved, and, as a result, constant discontent. A crooked Picasso, an unplumped scatter cushion, a faint mark on the handwoven silk wallpaper can drive them to a frothing distraction. And when you’ve got the best of everything, when you have your tea flown in from a micro-garden in Darjeeling and it still tastes rather like tea, when you’ve designed your own scent made from the squeezed glands of civets and the petals of rare orchids and that fails to give you the high-“When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept, for there were no more worlds to conquer”-then you’re reduced to collecting art. Art is good for those with Perfection Anxiety because you never get to the end of it. And the competition is fierce, and the prices are absurd. No picture bought for more than $50 million has ever made a profit, a contemporary auction expert tells me authoritatively, but it doesn’t stop people from buying them. There have been lots of papers written on collecting and collectors, and they turn out to be mostly men. And while they imagine their collections begin as random or serendipitous interests, they are invariably revealed to be emblematic of some deeper loss, some attempt to fill an unbridgeable gap, to repair a childhood wound. See rest of article at: Perfection Anxiety ACCIDENTS CAN HAPPEN… BUT TELL THAT TO THE JUDGE!Man gets warning instead of $525 citation for $.89 drink refill CHARLESTON COUNTY, SC (WCSC)-Officials with the VA Medical Center in downtown Charleston say a North Charleston man who was initially federally charged with a $525 fine for an $.89 drink refill will instead be given a warning. “In reviewing the case, the Ralph H. Johnson VA Medical Center has determined a warning in lieu of a citation is sufficient in this case,” a statement released by the VA stated on Thursday. Christopher Lewis, an on-site construction worker, said he didn’t know refills at the VA Medical Center in downtown Charleston came at a price, and Wednesday, during his lunch hour, he was originally slapped with federal charges. The ticket was issued by the Federal Police Force at the VA Medical Center in downtown Charleston after Lewis refilled his soda without paying the $0.89. A hospital spokesperson on Wednesday called it a “theft of government property.” “Every time I look at the ticket, it’s unbelievable to me,” Lewis said on Wednesday. “I can’t fathom the fact that I made a $0.89 mistake that cost me $525.” Lewis is now out of a job. According to a hospital spokesperson, signs are posted in the cafeteria informing patrons that refills aren’t free. Lewis says he never noticed the signs and admits he had refilled his drink without paying on other occasions. He says after he went back for seconds on Wednesday, a man who identified himself as the chief of police, stopped him. “As I was filling my cup up, I turned to walk off and a fella grabbed me by the arm and asked me was I going to pay for that, and I told him I wasn’t aware that I had to pay for that.” Lewis says he tried to pay the $0.89 right there, but wasn’t allowed to. He says he wasn’t given the chance to pay the cashier either. “I never had an option to make right what I had done wrong.” He says he was taken to a room, given the $525 ticket for shoplifting and told not to return to the property. “I’m done there, at the VA hospital. I’m not allowed to go on the premises anymore. I asked him can I still work on the job site and just bring my lunch and not got to the cafeteria and he said he wanted me off the premises.” A hospital spokesperson says it was her understanding that Lewis was aggressive during the confrontation. The medical center originally released the following statement on Wednesday: The Ralph H. Johnson VA Medical Center is fortunate to have a highly trained Federal police force to ensure the safety of our patients, visitors and employees. As Federal police they are responsible for enforcing the law. Today a Federal citation was issued for shoplifting in the VA cafeteria to an individual who stated to VA police he had not paid for refills of beverages on multiple occasions, even though signs are posted in the cafeteria informing patrons refills are not free. Shoplifting is a crime. The dollar amount of the ticket is not determined by VA as it is a Federal citation. The citation may be paid or the recipient may choose to appear in Federal court to contest it. Lewis and his fiancé have contacted the Internal Affairs Office in Columbia. He says he will contest the fine in federal court. “It’s about pretty much I guess you would say getting your face back. I want everybody to know that I made a simple mistake, that I’m not a thief, that I’m not dishonest. I’m trying to do the right thing.” SPOTLIGHTS: “In Recovery” MagazineThere’s a wonderful relatively new quarterly recovery magazine I want to let you know about. It’s called “In Recovery.” Founded 2 years ago by Kim Welsh, a recovering person herself, in Prescott, Arizona–home to many treatment centers and half-way houses, this magazine has something for everyone. I visited Kim in October 2013 and was honored to be invited to write a regular column about process/behavioral addictions–starting Spring 2014. The magazine is available in hard copy as well as online at:www.inrecoverymagazine.com 3rd Millenium STOPLifting Online Education Course!3rd Millenium Classrooms out of San Antonio, TX has been offering high-quality online education courses for alcohol, marijuana and shoplifting issues for many years now. I’ve been honored to help them fine-tune and update their shoplifting course which many are court-ordered to complete after an arrest. 3rd Millennium Classroom’s STOPLifting is an online intervention course designed to assist shoplifters in examining and altering their attitudes and behaviors towards shoplifting. The course incorporates evidential examples and related follow-up questions to discover the student’s motives behind shoplifting, reveal possible patterns in his or her behaviors, and identify potential triggers and ways to cope. Through STOPLifting’s unique motivational interviewing style, students are encouraged to evaluate the personal consequences of shoplifting and how they affect the individual, his or her family and those around him or her. See: www.3rdmiclassrooms.com Clutter-Hoarding National Clean-Up Services See: http://www.clutterhoardingcleanup.com/ Honesty is its own reward.–Anonymous Walk in peace.The Shulman Center 2014 Ongoing Events Calendar Ongoing … The Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system has a court-ordered, facilitated educational program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from Mr. Shulman’s book Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery. Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with360 Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it, prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. Enroll at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive shopping and spending called Bought Out and $pent! based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, CEs offered, through The American Psychotherapy Association. at: http://www.americanpsychotherapy.com |
| RESOURCES OF NOTE… THE SHULMAN CENTER THERAPIST TRAINING PROGRAM!If you’re a therapist and wish to be trained & certified in the assessment/treatment of compulsive theft, spending and/or hoarding, CONTACT THE SHULMAN CENTER NOW! See:http://www.theshulmancenter.com/counselor-training.html 3rd MILLENIUM STOPLifing ONLINE EDUCATION COURSE!3rd Millenium Classrooms out of San Antonio, TX has been offering high-quality online education courses for alcohol, marijuana and shoplifting issues for many years now. I’ve been honored to help them fine-tune and update their shoplifting course which many are court-ordered to complete after an arrest. Please check out their courses on their website at:www.3rdmilclassrooms.com IN RECOVERY MAGAZINE–PRESCOTT, ARIZONAThere’s a wonderful relatively new quarterly recovery magazine I want to let you know about. It’s called “In Recovery.” Founded 2 years ago by Kim Welsh, a recovering person herself, in Prescott, Arizona–home to many treatment centers and half-way houses, this magazine has something for everyone. I visited Kim in October 2013 and was honored to be invited to write a regular column about process/behavioral addictions–starting Spring 2014.The magazine is available in hard copy and online at: www.inrecoverymagazine.com GET A BOOST with MONEY LIFE-COACHINGTom Lietaert of Sacred Odyssey and the Intimacy with Money programs offers individual money coaching as well as various group workshops on money. Check out Tom’s two websites at:www.sacredodyssey.com / www.intimacywithmoney.com CONSULTING AND EDUCATION ON FRAUDGary Zeune of Columbus, Ohio has been a friend and colleague of mine for nearly two years. He has been a consultant and teacher on fraud discovery and prevention for nearly 30 years. He is interviewed in my book Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding. I recently saw Gary in action recently when he presented an all-day on fraud to metro-Detroit accountants. See: www.theprosandthecons.com RECOVERING SHOPAHOLIC BLOG AND EDUCATION Debbie Roes is an educator and recovering shopaholic and offers a free insightful blog and e-Newsletter to help you. See:http://www.recoveringshopaholic.com THE FLY LADY ASSISTS WITH CLEANING & DECLUTTERING I recently was told about a website resource that lists strategies for cleaning and de-cluttering and sells various books and products that help with this; so, I’m passing it along… See: www.flylady.netMr. Shulman’s booksavailable for purchase now! Click here to shop amazon.com Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery (2003) See also:www.somethingfornothingbook.com Biting The Hand That Feeds:The Employee Theft Epidemic… New Perspectives, New Solutions (2005) See also: www.bitingthehandthatfeeds.com Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping/$pending (2008) See also: www.boughtoutandspent.com Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding (2011) See also: www.clutteredlives.com Contact The Shulman Center: Terrence Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC Founder/Director, The Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding P.O. Box 250008 Franklin, Michigan 48025 E-mail: terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com Call (248) 358-8508 for a free consultation!Our Web Sites:The Shulman CenterShoplifting AddictionsKleptomaniacs AnonymousSomething For NothingShopping Addictions Shopaholics AnonymousBought Out and Spent Employee Theft SolutionsBiting the Hand that FeedsHoarding TherapyHoarders AnonymousTerrence Shulman Books by Terrence Shulman: Something for Nothing:Shoplifting Addiction and RecoveryBiting The Hand That Feeds:The Employee Theft EpidemicBought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pendingCluttered Lives Empty Souls: Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding All book are available for $25.00 each (includes shipping and handling). Click here to purchase |
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