| Dear : See our updated website www.theshulmancenter.com Get Mr. Shulman’s e-books through www.amazon.com Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Stealing, Spending & Hoarding THE SHULMAN CENTER THERAPIST TRAINING PROGRAM! If you’re a therapist and wish to be trained & certified in the assessment/treatment of compulsive theft, spending and/or hoarding, CONTACT THE SHULMAN CENTER NOW! See website:http://www.theshulmancenter.com/counselor-training.html Here’s what therapists who recently completed the training say: “I greatly benefitted from taking Mr. Shulman’s phone training program for therapists like me who wish to learn more about shoplifting addiction and how to effectively treat clients with this disorder.”-Randall Soland, LPC, Psychiatric Associates (Springfield, IL) “The three of us really enjoyed and learned a lot from Terry Shulman’s intensive therapist phone training program for shoplifting addiction. We look forward to applying our new knowledge and sensitivity in our prison ministry program.”-R. Anne Eyster, Facilitator -Steve Balarin, Facilitator -Elly Ferrell, Facilitator -Bexar County Prison Ministrie (San Antonio, Texas) THE SHULMAN CENTER’S PRE-HOLIDAY RECOVERY TUNEUPS!If you or someone you know is struggling with compulsive shoplifting, stealing, shopping or hoarding, the holidays see a marked uptick in these behaviors. Avoid a holiday crisis. Call now to schedule a 1-hour holiday recovery tune-up! It may be the best gift you can give yourself or your loved one. 248-358-8508The Shulman Center on the move and in the news… November 1–Mr. Shulman presented a 2-hour seminar on hoarding disorder in Farmington Hills, Michigan. November 14-16–Mr. Shulman presented on hoarding disorder and its costs at the Association of Financial Counselors, Planners and Educators in St. Louis, MO. See: www.afcpe.org November 18–Mr. Shulman presented his book “Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls” at the Metro-Detroit Jewish Book Fair. November 26–Mr. Shulman was quoted in The Detroit News about shoplifting during the holidays. See Article Here November 29–Mr. Shulman presented his book “Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls” at The Lido Gallery open mic night in Birmingham, Michigan from 7-9pm. November/December–Mr. Shulman has an article on compulsive theft, spending & hoarding in Counselor Magazine. See: www.counselormagazine.com December 4–Mr. Shulman will present a 90-minute talk entitled “What Would Jesus Buy” about the holidays and consumerism from 7-8:30pm at The Franklin (Michigan) Public Library. December 4–Mr. Shulman will be presenting on coping with holiday stressors (especially with addictions) from 6:30-7:30pm at Motor City Java House next to The Redford Theater. December–Mr. Shulman is quoted in an online article on shopping addiction in Baltimore’s Style Magazine |
| HAPPY HOLIDAYS… BUT GO EASY ON THE “STUFF”ING Thanksgiving came early this year–November 22nd–and the holiday shopping “frenzy” came earlier still with advance online sales offers and “Black Friday” moving up a day as many stores recently announced they’d be open Thanksgiving Day which–according to surveys, most Americans disapprove of. Stuff. Stuff. Stuff. How much is enough? To piggyback on a dietary analogy, we need more protein and less “stuff”ing. What is the protein? You get to decide but how about rest, relaxation, quality time together, or creating or spending a memorable event together. The National Retail Federation predicted that holidays sales this year would increase 4.1% to $586.1 billion and online sales are supposed to rise 12% over last year, reaching close to $96 billion. The preliminary stats are in and both in-store and online shopping have already greatly exceeded last year’s numbers. Fiscal cliff? What fiscal cliff? Now, I don’t mean to be a scrooge. There’s nothing wrong with gifts just as there’s nothing wrong with having a good meal or a drink or two. It’s the excess, silly! How much is enough? And while some will say that increased spending is a boon for our economy and a sign of increasing consumer confidence, I’m not so sure. What if it’s a sign that old addictions die hard and we haven’t learned a lesson of moderation? Does it help the economy if I get myself in credit card debt? A recent study estimates the average American carries credit card debt of over $5,000. Consider what we are teaching our children about the holidays and, more broadly, about consumerism, not to mention, greed and gluttony. Consider between now and Christmas, donating time, money, and/or gifts to the more needy–take the family and volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, or other charitable institution. Locally, a Deloitte LLP survey of Michiganians found shoppers expect to spend 2.2 percent more for the holidays this year than in 2011 – better than the 1.2 percent increase in a similar survey of U.S. consumers for the National Retail Federation. There is also a well-studied uptick in the amount of shoplifting and employee theft that occurs during the holiday season, not to mention an increase in the use and abuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling, and other addictive behaviors. The holidays can be the best of times or the worst of times. It’s really up to us. MAKE THE HOLIDAY SEASON A SUCCESS! REMEMBER: YOU’RE IN CHARGE OF YOUR EXPERIENCE! Lessons on The Fall of General David Petraeus Were any of you shocked to hear that General David Petraeus had an affair? Perhaps for a moment, right? Yeah, me, too. But then it sunk it yet again… nothing surprises us anymore. People have affairs all the time. It’s estimated that between 30-60% of married individuals will be unfaithful during some period of their marriages. And people who have affairs have a lot to lose besides their marriage: their reputation, their relationships with their kids, friends and other family members, and even their jobs in some cases. What’s perhaps most surprising is when an otherwise faithful and moral individual believes he or she won’t be found out and risks so much for seemingly so little. “What were they thinking?” As they say: the heart is a lonely hunter; it wants what it wants. It is certainly ironic that General Petraeus, who was Director of the C.I.A.–the agency entrusted with keeping secrets–had a secret of his own exposed. It’s unclear how long the affair with his biographer, Paula Broadwell, had gone on but it’s likely at least a year. And they didn’t really hide it that well–as hundreds of e-mails on their unsecured gmail accounts attest. There’s a theory that suggests that most of us secretly want to be caught when we’re engaging in deceptions, that the inner conflict is usually too much for us. Of course, there’s a counter theory that many truly feel invincible and that the rules don’t apply to us. One can only speculate what was going on in Petraeus’s heart and mind–not to mention Ms. Broadwell’s as she, too, was married with children. Was it love? Was it the stress of the job? Did he secretly or unconsciously want a way out of his C.I.A. position, his marriage, or the public spotlight? And did Ms. Broadwell consider that her participation could bring down the man and compromise even the country? Probably not much. If one thing is clear, General Petraeus appears to not have been in touch with the shadow side we all possess–the side that we have to monitor especially when we’re held up as guardians of the light. People in high positions are naturally going to be held to higher standards than most. It comes with the territory. Some say we hold these people to impossible standards–and that may, indeed, be partly true. Some say that Petraeus used poor judgment (or no judgment) and that this, alone, disqualified him from continuing in his job; others say that, practically speaking, his actions would have been a distraction if he stayed on. What will be General Petraeus’s legacy? For those who viewed him as a hero, will those opinions change due to his affair? Will we take pity on him? Will we all be reminded that the higher they fly, the steeper they fall? I, for one, hope both General Petraeus and Ms. Broadwell do some soul-searching and find the where-with-all to move forward in their personal and professional lives. Nothing surprises anymore except that we continue to put our faith in the notion of men (and women) as flawless. It’s Not Too Soon to Think About The New Year! Assuming the world is still here after December 21st (the last day of the Mayan calendar), what are your hopes and dreams for 2013? While 2012 ain’t over yet and it’s also a good time to reflect on lessons learned during the past 12 months, the new year always presents us with the opportunity for renewal and improvement. Instead of taking this on as pressure and with a natural fear of failure, let’s look at 2013 as a time of opportunity both for each of us personally as well as globally. It’s easy to be pessimistic or cynical but don’t let that stop you! This is your life. This isn’t a dress rehearsal. It might be helpful to meditate on new ways to change, heal, grow or evolve and to figure out ways and people to support this. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for… Walk in peace.The Shulman Center 2012 Events Calendar November/December–Mr. Shulman has an article on compulsive theft, spending & hoarding in Counselor Magazine. December 4–Mr. Shulman will present a 90-minute talk entitled “What Would Jesus Buy” about the holidays and consumerism from 7-8:30pm at The Franklin (Michigan) Public Library. December 4–Mr. Shulman will be presenting on coping with holiday stressors (especially with addictions) from 6:30-7:30pm at Motor City Java House next to The Redford Theater. January 2013–Mr. Shulman will have an article about shoplifting addiction in the Winter 2013 issue of Jack Hayes International Loss Prevention Newsletter. Thursday January 24, 2013–Mr. Shulman will be presenting on hoarding disorder at the Birmingham Community House from 7-9pm. Late 2012–Mr. Shulman has penned the “Foreword” for upcoming book Shoplifters: Are They Out of Control? by California forensic psychologist John C. Brady. April 28, 2013–Mr. Shulman is a proposed presenter on compulsive theft, spending and hoarding at the NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness) in Los Angeles, CA. |
| Ongoing … The Baton Rouge, Louisiana court system has a court-ordered, facilitated educational program for retail fraud offenders. The program is based on material from Mr. Shulman’s book Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery. Mr. Shulman created a 1-hour employee theft online course with 360 Training. Learn why people steal from their jobs, how to deter it, prevent it, and what to do when confronted with it. Enroll at: http://theshulmancenter.360training.com Mr. Shulman created an online continuing education course on compulsive shopping and spending called Bought Out and $pent! based on his book and Power Point presentation. The course, CEs offered, through The American Psychotherapy Association. at:http://www.americanpsychotherapy.comRESOURCES OF NOTE… START YOUR NEW YEAR with MONEY LIFE-COACHING! Tom Lietaert of Sacred Odyssey and the Intimacy with Money programs offers individual money coaching as well as various group workshops on money. Check out Tom’s two websites at:www.sacredodyssey.com / www.intimacywithmoney.com EXCELLENT CONSULTING AND EDUCATION ON FRAUD Gary Zeune of Columbus, Ohio has been a friend and colleague of mine for nearly two years. He has been a consultant and teacher on fraud discovery and prevention for nearly 30 years. He is interviewed in my book Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding. I recently saw Gary in action recently when he presented an all-day on fraud to metro-Detroit accountants. www.theprosandthecons.com PROFESSIONAL COACHING/ORGANIZING AVAILABLE! Eve Cantor, a 30-something professional organizer in the New York City area offers in-person and Skype coaching for women in need of assistance with their wardrobe and clutter. See Eve’s wonderful website and video at www.shopyourcloset.com THE MONEY SHIFT (Book, Board Game and Seminars) Tom Palka, CFP, a metro-Detroit area financial planner, and I recently met. He’s worked in finances for over 25 years and has written a book, developed a board game, and offers seminars on transforming our thinking about money and wealth. See his website at www.themoneyshift.com POSITIVE RETURNS Court-orderd Programs for Shoplifting Terry Richardson, LMSW, of Joplin, Missouri recently contacted me and we had a long-talk by telephone. Terry worked in the correctional system before returning to school to obtain his MSW. In 2003 he was approached and soon founded the first court-ordered program for theft offenders in Joplin, MO. It seems this small town was experiencing a steady rise in shoplifting and Terry developed a program that has made a real dent in shoplifting and has helped countless shoplifters of all backgrounds. His program is available for sale. See: www.positivereturnsprogram.com Mr. Shulman’s booksavailable for purchase now! Click here to shop amazon.com Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery (2003) See also:www.somethingfornothingbook.com Biting The Hand That Feeds:The Employee Theft Epidemic… New Perspectives, New Solutions (2005) See also: www.bitingthehandthatfeeds.com Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping/$pending (2008) See also: www.boughtoutandspent.com Cluttered Lives, Empty Souls: Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding (2011) See also: www.clutteredlives.com Contact The Shulman Center: Terrence Daryl Shulman, JD, LMSW, ACSW, CAADC, CPC Founder/Director, The Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding P.O. Box 250008 Franklin, Michigan 48025 E-mail: terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com Call (248) 358-8508 for a free consultation!Our Web Sites:The Shulman CenterShoplifting AddictionsKleptomaniacs AnonymousSomething For NothingShopping Addictions Shopaholics AnonymousBought Out and Spent Employee Theft SolutionsBiting the Hand that FeedsHoarding TherapyHoarders AnonymousTerrence Shulman Books by Terrence Shulman: Something for Nothing:Shoplifting Addiction and RecoveryBiting The Hand That Feeds:The Employee Theft EpidemicBought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pendingCluttered Lives Empty Souls: Compulsive Stealing, Spending and Hoarding All book are available for $25.00 each (includes shipping and handling). Click here to purchase |
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